| To cling or not to cling? Thats the question.
A lot of relationships ended because of a clingy issue. When two people first get together, its all lovey dovey, as if nothing can go wrong. Love is all around the air, and you want to see each other every second, want to talk to each other and tell each other "i love you" "i miss you" every second. However, most people need to learn that, after a while the relationship have to change, or else it's over. No matter how much you scream at each other telling the other one to care more or how much they've changed from the beginning of the relationship, it's USELESS. I've been in way too many relationships to not understand this, there is no way two people can talk to each other every day for very long amount of period and still find topics to talk about. Especially, if the two people are only spending time alone with each other and no one else.
For example, i used to be immature, want to talk on the phone for long amount of periods, even if not talking i still want to stay on the phone. As long as my boyfriends on the other line it's fine. However, now when my boyfriend wants to stay on the phone and have nothing to talk about, I get really irritated. Once you're on the phone, it's as if you are unable to do anything else besides just lie/sit there and hold the phone. As time goes on topic runs out, as topic runs out so does interest. Once interest runs out, relationship over. So this phone cling thing is a real issue.
In relationships, lovers dont need to see each other everyday, kind of like the phone issue. If you always hang out with each other, the meaningful and the "omg omg omg i need to look REALLY PRETTY for him" will start to disappear. It will start turning into those regular hang outs that you have with your other friends. In the beginning you will bring your digi cam everywhere in your pocket or purse and you will take it out anywhere. Subways, resturants, movie theatres, anywhere possible. After a while, you'll look at pictures and organize them, edit them, print them out. you'll think "what the heck? they all look the same just different backgrounds!" that's already going down hill. If lovers see each other once-twice a week its already good enough. The best way if both of you are too busy with school, work, etc, to see each other that makes it more better. Because it makes both of you want to see each other more and once you get to see each other you'll be happier than seeing each other everyday kind of feel. Ladies, don't think guys are really as smart as us. Even though they have the ability to turn our emotion upside-down within a minute, doesnt mean they're that smart. Ladies, if you're good enough, you can be said that you were born to be mind gamers. However, most ladies are not smart enough to know that, guys cannot read our minds. Theyre not born as sentimental as us, they're thoughts wont be the same as ours. Most importantly, when we say something and mean other thing and we think that he would understand our meaning, they really dont  . Yes, they dont understand a thing! So always be specific, if you want it say yes. If you try to play with a guys mind too much, you will end up putting urself and your relationship in danger. Soon guys will start to think theyre not the one for you and vice versa and they will start to meet new people. AHEM. new people will involve more oppurtunities to find a better half. At the meanwhile, good luck with your relationships. =]
.//with love .YMK.pOo |
